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2010-01-08T13:22:00.001-08:00

So, I hear you have a New Years Resolution that you want to keep this year, hmm, interesting. What is so different about this one, what makes you think you can actually achieve it this year? Have you ever kept a resolution, ever? No? Oh my, just as I thought. In that case let's start at the very beginning.

To really bring about change in your life and/or accomplish a goal you must be in the right frame of mind.

Step 1: Imagine that you have already accomplished your goal. See yourself 20 pounds lighter. See that brand new car that you want to buy. See your relationship being exactly as you want it to be. Get the idea? If you can imagine it then it can be achieved.

Step 2 : When you imagine that you have achieved your goal be happy as you are imagining it! Feel the joy and put all that passion into achieving your goal. Passion is a MUST!

Step 3: Now comes the practical part! Make a plan and stick to it!!!! You must be disciplined and be willing to stick to whatever it is you want to achieve! If you want to lose weight, stick to the plan! If you want the new car, stick to saving! If you want to have a better relationship, work at it! You MUST invest in what it is you want to change. Please realize that the first 25-30 days are the hardest because that is how long it takes to change a habit. So, if you know that, just keep to your plan like a little soldier!!!!!

Step 4 : Have an accountability partner from the beginning! I think this is an incredibly important step! My husband lost 10 pounds and it was only because he worked with nutritionist, Elena Rybak. If he would have gone at it alone he would have never achieved his goal. When we moved to the States from Germany I was my husband's business coach and worked with him to learn the language, without this assistance he would have had a harder time to achieve all he did in such a short period of time.

Many people think hiring a coach or someone to help you achieve your goals is a luxury that they cannot afford. I think it is something that you cannot NOT afford to do, if you are really serious about achieving your goal and getting results! Whatever it is that you want to change or accomplish, you definitely need someone to assist you, cheer you on, and keep your motivation going. No one gets to the top alone! No one!

The golf , basketball and tennis pros all have a coach. Every CEO in America has a private coach! Every author has an editor. Even our President has his advisors. So, if you really, really want to keep that New Years Resolution, get an accountability partner or expert to help you out. The investment in yourself is PRICELESS!!

So, are you still wanting to get results in 2010? You do realize that you will have to work a bit for it and invest a bit in yourself, right? To help you start off I am willing to give you 2 FREE 20 minute coaching sessions! Yes, that is right, 2 FREE 20minute sessions! I want to see everyone get off on the right foot and get the results that they want this year!
Just email me at michelle@momempowerment.com to set up your 2 FREE sessions to Jumpstart your New Years Resolution!!!

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If you can imagine it, you can achieve it!

Warmly,
Michelle

Bah Humbug

2009-12-02T09:18:00.001-08:00

Just not in the holiday spirit this year? For some reason you cry at Christmas songs instead of feeling the joy? You yell at your kids while waiting for Santa instead of enjoying the moment? Has Ebenezer Scrooge moved into your heart and you just do not feel like celebrating?

Our emotions are our inner sensor for when we are on track in our life and when we are not. If you are feeling sad or are angry, these are signs that you are not in sync with the joy in your life. It means that something is not to your satisfaction and quite simply must be dealt with.

The first step is to realize what it is that is not working. We are masters of denial and usually only with the help of a professional can we find the core of the problem.When I work with clients in a personal life coaching session, I ask questions about where they are now in their life, I don't deal with the past like therapists do. We look at what is now in their present situation and what is working and what is not.

As a life coach I listen to what the client is saying and most importantly to what they are not saying, it is a powerful process. During this process my clients come upon some a-ha moments that literally blow them away.

You never know where coaching will take you and that is what I love about the process so much! You may start out wanting to get your life a bit more organized and then end up writing a best selling novel and becoming a millionaire!

So, before you can make any positive changes in your life, you need to know what it is that is in need of change. After you discover that, then you can make a plan of action and follow your plan diligently. You can change anything that is not working for you in your life and regain the joy that is yours to have and to hold.

Even Ebenezer Scrooge changed his life drastically and became the most beloved man in town. He discovered through the visits from the ghosts that his life was not what he wanted it to be and was living in misery. The Grinch also made changes and finally found joy in his heart after letting go of his anger and jealousies. These may be children's stories but there is a lot to be learned from the morals of the two stories. If you are not happy, then something is not right in your life, whether it be a viewpoint, a relationship, health issues, financial issues or any number of different issues.

You, too, can make changes in your life and find joy once again. I would be more than happy to help you make these changes that you desire.

"Develop a mind that is vast like water, where experiences both pleasant and unpleasant can appear and disappear without conflict, struggle, or harm. Rest in a mind like vast water." - Buddha

A life coach becomes your accountability partner, your co-creator, your cheerleader and you confidant. Everything in your sessions is absolutely private information and will never be shared.

If you are one the people who would like to enjoy your life more and feel more balanced, give yourself the gift of coaching and reinvent your life to suit your personal dreams and wishes!

Sign up for your FREE Sample Session and experience the power of personal coaching, it changed my life and I guarantee it will positively change yours as well!

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Turn "Bah Humbug" into "Peace and Joy!"

Rewrite your Life Story 8/26/09

2009-08-26T06:54:00.000-07:00

As a life coach for mothers, I meet the most wonderful women at my workshops, at networking functions and when I am a guest speaker for various groups. Mothers are such incredible people and I love hearing about their "life stories".

Each of us has our own personal "life story". We star in it, we write the script, we direct it, we produce it and we even edit it at times! I know that some mothers feel like they are the victim of their own "life story" and they feel like they are being swept up and away by it, like riding the rapids.

What I tell my clients to practice, is to step back and look at your "life story" from a distance as if you were the audience watching it unfold on a large screen.

Ask yourself questions: "Is the heroine happy?", "What is working and what is not in her life?" or "What changes could she bring about to change the storyline?"

When we step back and view our life from a different perspective, things suddenly become clearer and sharper for us to see. The distance helps us to realize that we are responsible for all the choices we make in our life. Remember, we are the writer of the script, we have the power to change things that are not working!

If you are a mother and are frustrated or overwhelmed with your life, step back and take a look at what it is that is frustrating you or what is making you feel overwhelmed. Take a real good look at it and make a realistic plan to change these circumstances that trouble you.

Rewrite your "life story"!
You and only you, are the director of your life.
You and only you have the power of choice in your life!

MomEmpowerment Life Coaching can asisst you if you need support in rewriting your "life story"! Visit my website at www.momempowerment.com for more info or contact me personally at 941-538-0791 or michelle@momempowerment.com.

My MomEmpowerment Workshop Series has gotten off to a great start and continues every Tuesday from 10-12 at "Fairy Tales To Remember" You can still join in and get the support you need to rewrite your life story!!!!!!!

"Discover Your ME With MomEmpowerment"

Mamma Comes First

2009-08-19T08:33:00.000-07:00

"School is starting next week! Whoohooooo!"
As a life coach for mothers that is all I am hearing from every mother that I meet at the moment. You can feel the euphoria spreading down the aisles of Publix, where you see mothers skipping with a light step. At Staples, where the parents are buying school supplies with a little giggle under their breathe. And last but not least at Target where the All Star Sneakers are being fought over for that all so holy first day back at school!

I know the mothers of kindergartners are going through a whole different scenario. We know that you are fighting back the tears at the thought of leaving that precious child of yours in the hands of that strange teacher that promises to watch out for your darling. You know deep in your heart that they cannot possibly do everything like you do. Believe me when I speak for all the other mothers whose kids are now past that age, you will survive and after about a week will be blessing that teacher with all your heart!

I know it may sound mean that we mothers are glad to have our kids out of the house and back at school but face it, we do need some time to ourselves as well! Yes, we give all we can to our kids and we want them to be safe, happy, healthy, educated and more "but" to be able to give our kids all of this, we must take care of ourselves FIRST!

This is my top priority as your mom-coach for this week!

Mothers must make their own well being their top priority.

When the flight attendant explains how to use the air masks in case of an emergency, what does she always says to adults who are flying with children ? To put the mask on yourself first!
The reason being, that if the adult passes out first then the child has no chance of surviving. To be able to give our children the best possible care, we mothers need to be in top shape physically, emotionally and mentally. We need to take care of ourselves first!

So, don't feel guilty that you are happy about having more time for yourself when your children are in school (some moms still have the house full with little ones, but they still do not get out of taking care of themselves as well!) because you will be doing a service to your children by being happier, healthier and mentally in a good place!

Nurture yourself and see the results in your happy children! Mamma comes first!

The Peaceful Path 8/5/09

2009-08-05T07:23:00.000-07:00

"Follow the yellow brick road,
Follow the yellow brick road,
Follow, follow, follow, follow, follow the yellow brick road!" - Wizard of OZ

How I loved that scene out of the Wizard of Oz when Dorothy was in Munchkinland and Glinda, the Good Witch of the North, was telling her to follow the yellow brick road, so the Wizard could help her return home. It was so exciting, you could feel the suspense in the air because Dorothy had no idea what she would find on this path to Oz. Who would she meet, what perils would lie ahead, would she ever find the Wizard and would he help her home? That is a lot of anxiety for a little girl from a farm in Kansas.

We all know that uncomfortable feeling of being on unfamiliar ground? Being out of your comfort zone is surely a difficult thing.One thing Dorothy did know for sure though is that was that she wanted to go home where she was loved, happy and at peace!

Isn't that what we all want?
Isn't that the thing we all yearn most for in our life?
Don't we all just want to be loved, at peace and
happy?

Well, as we all know, Dorothy had many adventures on the yellow brick road on her journey home. She met friends such as the scarecrow, the tin man and the cowardly lion. She met scary creatures like talking trees, flying monkeys and the Wicked Witch of the West. This could be compared to our journeys in life, we meet good friends and some scary creatures along the way.

Returning home could be seen as the longing in each of us to return to our true selves, to the peace within us. Dorothy was searching for the way to go "home" and finally was told by Glinda to click her heels together 3 times and say,
" There is no place like home!" She had the power to go home the whole time she was searching, she just had to want it badly enough!

We, too, have the power to return "home" or to our inner peacefulness at any moment, we just need to choose to do so! No matter what paths we choose or what things happen to us, or even what our life looks like right now, our peace within us is always there if we choose to connect to it. Our inner joy is ever present if we allow it to be. We need to make our path no matter what it is, be the peaceful path!

Taking the peaceful path helps us:
-be grateful for what we have
-find love in every situation
-find the strength to let go of things in our life that are not working ang change them to better suit us
-create a life filled with peace and joy.

So every path we choose, (whether it be to stay at home with our children or to have a career "and" family) it can be the peaceful path.

It's not "which" path we choose to take, but rather "how" we choose to live our life at every moment on whatever path it is we choose to take.

Whether we are on the yellow brick road or at home in Kansas, we can be at peace if we so choose to.

In my next newsletter I will go deeper into how we can choose the peaceful path no matter what our choices are or what our life situation is. Until then try and make the effort of feeling the peace within you no matter what is happening in your life.

Follow your own personal yellow brick road and find your peace!

Focus On The Positive 7/26/09

2009-07-26T09:51:00.000-07:00

"You do not attract what you want; you create what you focus on."
- Dr. David Krueger - MentorPath

After reading this quote, everything seemed so clear to me, all I needed to do was focus on the positive. How easy I thought. Well, not so much. My mind constantly slips back into fearful, anxious or even violent thoughts. It's as if the angel is on one shoulder and the devil on the other just like in the cartoons. But in real life it isn't funny whatsoever.

This dark voice in our head has been called many things, The Course in Miracles
describes it as the ego. It states that,

"The ego is quite literally a fearful thought."

So, if we create what we focus on and we focus on fearful or negative thoughts, we are creating a fearful and negative life. That is powerful stuff . Another important factor is not only what we think but what we say as well.

Joel Osteen wrote in his book,Your Best Life Now, "We get what we say- our words become self fulfilling prophecies. If you allow your thoughts to defeat you and then give birth to negative ideas through your words, your actions will follow suit."

How often have we said things like, " In this economy I will never get back on my feet" or "I'll have to deal with this problem forever" or even," We'll never pay up this debt!" If you send energy into those kinds of thoughts that is exactly what you will get.

In The Secret, by Rhonda Byrne, they showed a scene with Aladdin and the Genie, where the Genie said, "Your wish is my command!" So, if we say that we will never pay up our debt, guess what? That's right, we get our wish and we will never pay up our debt.

We need to monitor our thoughts and our choice of words. If we want to see positive changes in our lives, we need to focus on the positive.

How do we focus on the positive? It actually is a retraining of how we think! If you habitually think negative or fearful thoughts, you will have to catch yourself as you are doing it and refocus on something positive. This takes real discipline but does get easier with practice. Scientific studies have stated that it takes 25 days to break an old ritual or habit.

For myself, the easiest way to focus on the positive is to be TRULY grateful for what I have and give thanks. I find myself giving thanks hundreds of times a day, reminding myself of how truly blessed I am and what is really important in my life.

Remember, your thoughts are like boomerangs, what you send out is going to come right back at you!

Negativity ade! Let's all focus on the positive and enjoy life to it's fullest!

Conscious Living! What if..... 7/2/09

2009-07-02T08:25:00.001-07:00

When you look at a cup, you know that you can hold liquids in it and the liquid will satisfy your thirst. You know that because you have learned that. As a baby you had no idea what a cup was and would have thrown it around as a ball or smashed it or heaven knows what.

What if..... we could be clean as a slate every time we encountered a situation in our life that has been difficult or trying for us? Instead of reacting like we usually do in a situation that just bugs us,
what if..... we could see the situation as if we are seeing it for the first time?
What if ....our minds would not constantly be bringing up past pictures of what happened in the past and then project those pictures onto our proposed outcome of the future?
What if.....we could be present in the moment?

What if....you could take a cup and see it for the first time, notice it's color, how heavy it is, the shape and so forth.
This exercise is believe it or not the beginning of conscious living. Of being present in your life instead of being a prisoner of your thoughts. Look at that cup every day as if you are seeing it for the first time and let that feeling flow into your life!

You Get What You Give!

2009-06-26T16:54:00.000-07:00

"The best preparation for a better life next year is a full, complete harmonious, joyous life this year"
- Thomas Drier

When I read this quote it really spoke to me in so many ways. It made me feel like grasping the moment, living life to the fullest now and enjoying everything no matter what life presents.

This is so easy to say when one has a quiet, peaceful moment to reflect about such things, but what if you have 6 screaming kids in the pool, one of them has to pee immediately, the other one is screaming that a spider is crawling up her leg and another nearly drowned her sister? Oh yeah..... what then?

This is the story of my life, in my mind and heart I am Buddha himself and love my neighbor and am as selfless as Mother Theresa. But honestly what about reality and the moments when you really feel like yelling at your neighbor for not pulling their weeds or have had enough of the cars parked in front of your house? What then? Did Buddha or Mother Theresa have to deal with ugly pick up trucks in front of their house? I don't think so.

Well, this as always is a dilemma for me and makes me contemplate a lot.

My wise friend and sister, Anne Carey, whom I will write much more about on another occasion, said " What you give, you get, Michelle". At first I didn't quite get it, but the more I thought about it, the more sense it made.

For instance, if you want more hugs in your life, then give more hugs first. If you want prosperity in your life, give to those in need first. If you want to learn something, teach something first.
Aaaahhhh....now I was getting it.

So, if I wanted inner peace in my life at all times, then that is what I must give at all times. So simple and yet so hard.

I take it one moment at a time because I am not Buddha or Mother Theresa. I am a normal women with 2 kids, a husband ,3 fish and 2 cats. Life is full and I do my best, that's all I can ask of myself. And if I don't do my best then I forgive myself and start all over again because every moment is a new beginning. This is what I tell my clients as well. That they are incredible beings who are giving their best and we all just want to be loved.

The only secret is that if you want to be loved, then love first!

Remember, you get what you give.

There's No Place Like Mom!

2009-06-08T16:02:00.000-07:00

We like to quote lines from movies in our
household. My favorite one to use is:
"What about "No", Scott", from Austin Powers. Vivienne, our eldest daughter likes,
"Woman, where is my super suit?" from The Incredibles. One day Lauren, our youngest, wanted to say a line from The Wizard of Oz, "There's no place like home", but instead came out with, " There's no place like Mom!" We laughed so hard and talked about it for days. Funny, but I thought a lot about her Freudian slip and that it had a lot more meaning behind it than we all thought.

There is no such place as "Mom", but a Mom sure can lead you to that place of warmth, security and unconditional love. My girls refuse to go to bed unless they are allowed to sit next to me for a few minutes and cuddle while watching TV. I see it in their faces how they relax and feel that all is well with world in that place called "Mom". When I volunteer in school, I can see their little faces turn bright with excitement when I appear. Oh my, they got that little glimpse of Mommyland! Or when I return from being away for a while, it is as if I had journeyed to the other side of the earth and had taken that place called Mom with me.

I tried to remember how it was for me to be in that place called "Mom" in my youth. Did I feel safe and warm when she was close? Did I have the biggest smile in dance class when my mother appeared to pick me up? The memories started to reappear and I could actually hear her voice and see her face as she looked in my childhood. Mind you my mother was not the most physical of people, kisses were not given freely like I do with my kids and she didn't say I love you 10 million times a day. But she did sit down when I got home from school and listen to every word I said and there were many words, believe me. She gave me her full attention and that is remarkable. I always felt special, that my mother and I had a bond like no one else. I think every child believes that they are the entire universe for their mothers and that nothing else exists. My mother was a safe place for me, a haven where everything was right and nothing could harm me. I knew, even though she never said it, that she loved me unconditionally. That is what the place called Mom is all about.

So my dear Moms, don't worry about all the things you need to "do" for your children, just "be" who you are, "be" the place they need for comfort and love and that is truly a gift your children will never forget and be eternally grateful for!

Feeling the love posted 5/27/09

2009-05-27T07:10:00.000-07:00

Feeling the love can be quite a task at times. We Moms get so caught up in getting our daily chores and duties done that we have no time for feeling the love that is within us.
I often remind myself as I am vacuuming that I actually am loved and live a great life. As I am running through the grocery store at full speed ahead, so that I am not late picking the kids up from school because it is pouring outside, I remind myself that I love my life, my children, my husband and even the so sorely needed rain!
As a life coach for mothers when I am on the phone following up with clients and some of them would rather not get followed up on, I breathe deeply and feel the love that comes from my 2 cats purring so gently next to me.
What I am trying to say is, take a few seconds every now and then to feel that love within you that is always there no matter what you are doing and no matter how much you don't like what you are doing at the moment!!!
As mothers, we give so much love all day long, but very often we forget to feel the love ourselves, leaving us empty and dissatisfied at times.
Go ahead,I dare you to feel the love within yourself as much as you can and see if it brightens up your horizon just a little bit at least! Feel the love!

To help you feel the love, I highly recommend this audio cd from Marianne Williamson!

Stop the complaining!

2009-05-19T08:56:00.000-07:00

As a Life Coach for mothers I work with a lot of wonderful clients and my ideal clients are mothers who are "ready" to empower themselves and create positive changes in their lives. These women are ready to live their dreams, walk the talk, take responsibility for their actions and lives and achieve the goals they are setting for themselves.
One thing my ideal clients don't do is complain!
They don't complain about their marriage, they work on it and invest in it.
They don't complain about how long the line is at the grocery store but rather wait patiently and breathe deeply to become one in accepting the present moment as it is. They don't complain about their children but rather support them and help them through any difficulties with ease.
Now to be fair ,the gift of not complaining is a hard earned one because complaining is a habit just like binging or biting your nails. My clients have worked hard to kick this habit and to be totally honest, it is something that I work on daily as well.
I learned to complain from my mother, who was a champion at it. She complained from red lights, to the neighbors watering their lawn to the weatherman who predicted rain when it was sunny outside. No matter what it was she would find something wrong with it. This exhausted me as a child, because by nature I am a very positive person and the negativity really brought me down and rained on my parade!
Now as an adult, I realize how detrimental complaining can be to your health, relationships, career and your overall well being. Through life coaching my clients have discovered a way to make different choices in how they react to situations as well as becoming more peaceful in all types of situations.
I call on all you mothers out there to stop the complaining! If you don't like something speak up or walk away, whatever it is that makes you happy, but don't just whine about it all the time! Life is so so short, do you want to be happy or right?

Priceless! Michelle Teyke 5/1/09

2009-05-04T12:56:00.000-07:00

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What we give -
Hannah Montana Concert Tickets for my daughter- $280
Disney Weekend for my daughter- $1600
Golf Lessons for my daughter - $600
What we get in return -
Speech Contest won by my daughter - PRICELESS!

There are some golden moments that we mother's have that make it all worthwhile!
For instance, I love watching my daughters ride off to school on their bikes in the morning.
I love putting them to sleep at night and smelling their clean skin.
When they are rocking on their Wii and singing "Mississippi Queen" at the top of their lungs, it just puts a smile on my face.

Well, this last week my daughter, Vivienne, who was painfully shy as a toddler, got up on stage at her elementary school and won the Tropicana Speech Contest! I couldn't believe that this poised, beautiful young lady who had the audience hanging on her every word was that same shy girl. When did this happen? When did the furry little, silly little catapillar become this beautiful butterfly? When I watched her deliver her speech, all I could think of was, on the day she was born, I wondered who this child would be, what she would be like and if we would be friends. Luckily, we are the best of friends and really enjoy our life together.
When we sit at the dinner table, our family is like a Saturday Night Live sketch at times, crazy, loud, incredibly funny and absurd all at once! These are the moments that get us through all the hard times, when we think we are loosing our minds and wonder why we had children in the first place!!!

My fellow mothers, let's hold on to these special moments and keep them safe so that when we need them, we can pull them out to help us remember why we give so much. We really DO get so much in return, we just need to remind ourselves at times!

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What R U Waiting 4? 4/23/09

2009-04-23T09:59:00.000-07:00

"What R U Waiting 4 ?", is my question of the day for you.

I have contact with a lot of people on a daily basis and one thing that I have noticed a lot in the conversations taking place are phrases like, " I should...." or " I want to but..." or even " I can't get around to ...".

I thought a lot about it and I must say I do understand that everyone has a lot on their plate, I know I do, but what I don't understand is how we can put our own personal wishes, joys, and aspirations on the back burner ALL the time!

As a life coach for mothers I see this more than I would like to admit. We, as mothers, give so much of ourselves and time that we often lose our own identity and life goals. Then we wonder why we are so unhappy at times! I hate to say it but it is our own fault! We need to make our own well being a priority just as much as that of our children and spouses.

Today I would like to challenge all you mothers out there to do one thing for yourself everyday!!!! It can be as small as giving yourself the time to read a magazine or as large as writing that novel that you have in your head! Go ahead, it will make you happy to make yourself happy! What R U Waiting 4?

I am Not Perfect Part II

2009-04-19T12:53:00.000-07:00

I'd like to continue the theme of not being perfect because it has had such a huge resonance with my readers! It's not only about doing things perfectly but looking perfect as well!
Nowadays with all the media hype of looking perfect it is really hard for people to learn to forgive imperfections!
Oh my God there is a pimple, wipe it out, aaaaaaaaaah! What's that a wrinkle, heaven forbid! Oh dear I see a hair on your lip, would you just please crawl up and die already.
Come on give me a break! Yes, I have wrinkles, pimples, ingrown hairs, dry heels and my hair is frizzy if not treated. Does that make me less of a good mom or wife? Does that make me love less or not as good as someone with perfect skin.
Why are we so hard on ourselves for not being perfect? Let's just stop this nonsense and love ourselves and forgive ourselves a little bit more.
Of course there is always room for improvement but we should not be depressed because we don't look like Jennifer Aniston or whoever it is that you think you should look like!
I don't think that Jennifer Aniston is one of the happiest people around to tell you the truth, I bet she cries as well. I even believe that keeping up her looks is a major job and not as important as her acting skills once were for her. I think when she started out in the business it was all about being a good actress and not about fighting the wrinkles, pimples and dry heels.
I challenge you, dear reader, to be happy no matter what you look like today! I know you can do it and if you can't, just fake it for a while! Fake it till you make it!
Once again I wish a totally imperfect day and be happy while living it!

Lions and Tigers and Bears, Oh My! 4/9/09

2009-04-09T12:26:00.000-07:00

The important news of the day is that the economy stinks, the Koreans are launching missiles, the British are upset about their Queen being improperly touched and Hannah Montana might be giving up her blond wig forever. Lions and tigers and bears, oh my!

Fear is a terrible thing my friends and yet the media uses it as it's most precious marketing tool.
The more gore they can get out of a story and the more fear they can instill in it's audience the happier the media is. Our children are growing up with role models (or so they say they are) that don't wear underwear, come on, what is that?

I am by no means a prude and I like a good bawdy joke on occasion but I think it is going too far how much uncensored information is out there for our kids to see, hear and read about.
As Moms we really have our hands full with trying to raise kids that are respectful, polite or just plain kind!

I know we can't shelter our kids totally from what is happening in the world but you can't let them know just how bad some things are either.What on Earth should we tell them about their future?

"Well dear, your college funds have disappeared, there are no jobs out there, we might have to live together forever and oh yeah, forget about the big white wedding."
"Yeah, what about no Scott"! (That quote is from an Austin Powers movie). I believe it is our job to raise our kids with optimism, joy and the feeling that they are loved and safe, no matter what the situation may be.

Let us not dwell on the past and how or why so many things went wrong or focus on the future and how scary it looks. Let's focus on right NOW! Just deal with what is right now and breathe. Don't forget to breathe! Then smile, even if you don't have any reason to smile, do it anyway it will make you feel better!

I'm not saying that we should tune out the world or become passive about things that are wrong, I just think that worrying or being afraid of everything is not going to help anyone! Let's take one step at a time with our own well being and that of our children and spouses as well. That way if we need to react to something we will have the strength and the clear mindedness to do so. Prioritize what is worth your attention and what is not!

Let's not worry about Hannah Montana's future too much, I'm sure that she'll be fine!

I don't want to be perfect!

2009-03-31T06:36:00.000-07:00

I have come to the realization that I do not want to be perfect or try to be perfect anymore because I am not!
This last week end a lot of things went differently than planned and a lot of weird situations were appearing!
What I saw was how friends of mine were distraught because they made mistakes and how the people around them that were effected by the mistakes went ballistic!!!
Whatever happened to the "Nobody is perfect" attitude and forgiveness?
We mothers are especially hard hit by this expectation of perfection and never making mistakes by our children! When I make a mistake the whole family goes crazy as if the world was coming to an end!
How did I create this? First of all I think we got taught to be perfect by our mothers, and didn't we expect our moms to be perfect as well, how wrong is that?
My whole life I feel like I have been trying to please everyone: teachers, neighbors, friends, family, colleagues, bosses, partners and now my children! The main person we forget to make happy is our self! It is almost impossible to please everyone all the time, so why don't we just STOP! Whew! That feels better already!
Do me a favor today, please! Don't try to please everyone today! Disappoint at least one person ( kindly of course) today and breathe deeply! It will be hard at first but after a while you will get used to it! I think I am going to get T-shirts printed up that say " I am not perfect and proud"! I'll let you know when I have them for you to order!!!
Have fun today being imperfect!

Welcome to my first blog!

2009-03-03T10:26:00.000-08:00

Dear MomEmpowerment website visitor!

First of all welcome to my website. I don't know if you can feel my excitement, but I am truly excited about starting my own business, launching my own website and writing my first blog for you to read and hopefully find enjoying.!!! That is why the first topic for my blog is excitement!

As new mothers everything was exciting, our new baby, being a new mom, as well as watching everything our baby did with wonder. Then as the exhaustion starts to take over and our daily life becomes a non-stop row of chores, the excitement in our lives starts to disappear. Let's face it, being a mom is a very demanding job with no benefits, no days off, no vacation and very little or no sleep for that matter. Whether you a working mom or stay home mom there are definite challenges to be faced.

So what can we do to keep that excitement about being a mom alive when times get rough? Just like every good executive: delegate!!! Yes, get the help you need somehow so that you can take care of yourself ! There are so many possibilities to get help: family, friends, neighbors, spouses, childcare, au pairs, nannies, etc.... There are possibilities no matter what your financial situation is, you just have to be open to receiving some help. You don't have to do it all on your own!!!

When you get on the plane what does the flight attendant tell you? Put the mask on yourself before you put it on your child. So, if you take care of yourself by getting some help which will relieve you, you will be able to take better care of your child!!

That's when the excitement comes back into your life! Not only will you be in a better place and enjoy your life to the fullest but your children will be in a better place because of it.

I find life to be a never ending opportunity for happiness and that everyone has the right to find and live their perfect life! That is reason enough to be excited in my books!

That is also why life coaching is the perfect fit for me and for the clients that choose to work with me. I find it exciting to see my clients get excited about their new choices, new paths and new possibilities. When it comes down to it, it is all about the choices we make in our lives. Choose to be excited about your life today!

2009-02-26T15:25:00.000-08:00

I will be posting my blog here. Check back often for new posts!